I recently came across this quote on Pinterest: “Nothing ruins your twenties more than thinking you should have life figured out.” I’d expand that quote to say: “nothing ruins your LIFE more than thinking you should have life figured out.”
This topic has been a bit of a mini passion project for me lately. After seeing a close friend panic about how they hadn’t figured out their life by the end of their twenties has made me do lots of digging and research on the topic the past weeks. Though I have my moments of comparison to others my age and spend time thinking about what I want out of life, I’ve luckily never been consumed by benchmarking my life to where I “should” be at a certain age. I suppose maybe I have a silly amount of faith that if I work hard and am a good person I’ll achieve a great life when the time is right. For me, I’m also very aware that life is short, so I have no interest in rushing mine. It is highly unlikely you’ll ever hear me say “I need to be a manager by the time I’m 30 and a VP by the time I’m 40.” For me, I’m fortunately surrounded by family and friends with this same mindset: enjoy life as it comes, do your best to plan but don’t be a slave to the plan.
I’ve never been a preachy person, but lately all I’ve wanted to do is hop up on a soapbox and lecture the young professionals of the world to stop comparing their lives to expectations and everyone else on social media. Social media is only showcasing the perfectly scripted (and maybe even staged) parts of peoples lives; not the struggles and difficulties and set backs. I want all the young professionals of the world to know YOU ARE NOT BEHIND just because you haven’t hit certain milestones. You are not a failure because your Pinterest project didn’t turn out as amazing.You are still lovable (and someone will appreciate it someday) even if you are still single.
Ok I’ll stop now. I could go for pages and pages. If you won’t take it from me, here are a few articles I’ve collected on the topic. Maybe their eloquet rhetoric will have you believing you are exactly where you need to be right now.
- Social Media can lead to depression: http://money.cnn.com/2015/03/02/technology/facebook-envy/index.html
- The new status symbol is always being busy. I know we want to live life to the fullest, but is always being busy the best way to go about things? It is the new way of “keeping up with the Joneses”: http://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/why-being-too-busy-makes-us-feel-so-good/2014/03/14/c098f6c8-9e81-11e3-a050-dc3322a94fa7_story.html
- If you are falling victim to the issues I’ve discussed here, you are likely ruining your life and not appreciating what you do have: http://thoughtcatalog.com/bianca-sparacino/2014/11/how-to-ruin-your-life-without-even-noticing-that-you-are/
- This article is so much more that just about dating. It is about how we can’t seem to be happy with what we have. We give up rather than fight: http://thoughtcatalog.com/jamie-varon/2014/12/this-is-how-we-date-now/
- Don’t forget, you are doing great. Just great: http://thoughtcatalog.com/brianna-wiest/2015/02/20-signs-youre-doing-better-than-you-think-you-are/
Take Away: Stop comparing. Stop thinking you are behind. Embrace your life in the way that you want it to be, not how you think it “should be.”